Chemistry is both a scientific field of study as well as a psychological interaction between two people. In science Chemistry seeks to identify the properties of different substances and determine how they interact with each other in order to create new substances.

In psychology, it is how two people work together mentally, emotionally, and oftentimes sexually to form a union and partnership. Most people are aware of both these meanings of Chemistry.

Kismet, on the other hand, in a sense, flies in the face of Chemistry, and is simply fate, the unseen, unexplainable, unknown that we are all walking through our lives living.

These two words seem oppositional in nature, as though putting them together would create an oxymoronic concept filled with duality.

Chemistry is the How, whereas Kismet is the Why. Putting these two together, working with both ends in balance and harmony, create the possibility of Possibilities.

Example:

Do you know why you met the person who hurt you?

You were going to be a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, a scientist, a coach, just something, now you are sitting, alone, and feeling like you are not something, but nothing.

What happened?

Looking back on your younger self, you wonder, where did she/he go?

How did I get here? 

How did I get here? 

That is your important question. Now you can start your journey.

How did you get to that spot?

What choices did you make?

Did you follow your heart, or did you listen to this person or that person?

When you were given options, which did you choose?

Why did you choose the options and actions you took? 

Why did you choose the options and actions you took? 

See, you are starting to get the concept now.

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Having Chemistry with Kismet, you must first be still. Stop with your pushing for this answer, this result, this knowledge.

Stop. Just stop.

If you are meant to know, you will know. That is the first thing that matters. You have decided to heal. You set an intention into the Universe. Maybe you did not realize that is what you did, but you did. I did the same thing.

When you are going through the healing process in life, you have to decide:

Do you want to understand and move forward, or do you want to keep carrying burdens that should simply be lessons for your growth?

Everyone is uniquely different, yet everyone has one thing in common: free-will.

We all get to choose.

Choose whether the story of our lives is the one we want told, or if it is time to change the storyline to something greater.

This is the crossroads I found myself at recently, a crossroads that only I had within me the power to choose which path I would take.

Did I really want to continue to suffer from anxiety, depression, and illnesses or did I want to heal?

I would love to say that the decision I made was entirely self-less, that I chose to heal for this person or that, but truthfully, I did not want to continue being who I was. I did not want to find myself on my deathbed, ruing all the things in life I never accomplished, complaining perpetually about those who wronged me, and playing the victim.

No, not I. I am stronger than that, and I knew it. I chose to heal. I chose to have Chemistry with Kismet, to play and dance with fate versus remaining in the dark.

As with all things of this nature, when trying to share my experiences with others, they asked me what I did, what I changed, what happened.

I seem so different.

So much freer.

So carefree.

Of course, that is not always the case, I am still living a human existence and as such I experience the full spectrum of emotions.

I simply have learned how to pull myself from the ones that no longer serve the life I am living, nor the person I truly am. It does not mean I do not feel them. It is important for you to know that.

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It is important for you to remember, no matter what religion you are, that you are a Divine being within a human body, and one of your purposes in this life is to experience this life. Feel it, see it, take in the beauty, and really, truly, live.

Stop. Just stop.

I know that you could formulate a million arguments against that statement. 

I am living my life.

I do not feel Divine.

It is easy for you to say, Monica, you do not know what I have been through. 

A myriad of thoughts and arguments, all of which are going to come from some little voice inside your head, but not your true inner voice.

 None of those things matter, because those arguments are all simply a defense mechanism for your ego, trying to prevent change.

Change can be scary.

Why?

Because it is throwing yourself into the vast unknown.

Do you want to make a change?

Do you want to heal?

Do it!

Stand back up, dust yourself off, sit your ego down in your mind, and lovingly tell him or her that you understand he or she is trying to protect you, you understand they are scared, but this is not something to be fearful about.

This is something to step into who you are, what you are meant to do, who you are meant to be, and continue moving forward in life.

Everyone feels weak from time to time.

Everyone has to face disappointments and failures, but what if I told you that you have never once failed anything in your life?

Nope, you really have not.

Every perceived failure is a successful learning experience. And yes, that is the absolute truth. I do not lie. It is the number one rule in my house and in my life.

Always tell the truth.

The truth may hurt, you may get in trouble for wrongdoing, but it is never more damaging than to tell a lie. So, stand in the truth, own it, live it, love it.

When I began my journey, my personal transformation, I did not set down a list of things to do and not to do.

I did not follow this guru or that guru.

I shed all preconceived notions of faith, religion, and beliefs in the Divine, and in myself.

I had to surrender.

Something needed to give.

Stepping back at the end multiple waves of healing, the end of my sojourn into my Dark Night of the Soul, I started to see a set pattern of behaviors that later I was able to see were my nuggets of wisdom, steps to healing the mind, freedom found through forgiveness, and keys to my spiritual gifts.